Gratitude is one of those life lessons we want to teach our kids, not just because it’s a nice thing to do, but because it genuinely helps them see the world in a more positive way. When kids learn to recognize the good things in their lives - big or small - it can change how they approach challenges and strengthen their relationships with others.
Here are some practical ways to help your kids develop a grateful mindset…
1. What Does Gratitude Even Mean?
Let’s start with the basics: Do your kids even know what gratitude is? Be honest - how many adults actually stop to think about this? For younger kids especially, using phrases like, “What are you happy about?” or “What are you thankful for?” can make the concept more relatable and makes it easier for kids to understand and help them get comfortable with the idea of gratitude.
2. Make Gratitude a Daily Habit
If we’re being real, kids don’t just automatically pick up habits like brushing their teeth or saying "thank you." They need routines to help them learn. That’s why building a daily gratitude habit can make such a big difference. For example, during dinner or before bedtime, ask your kids to share one thing they’re grateful for. Maybe it’s a fun activity they did that day, a friend who made them laugh, or even just having their favorite snack. Doing this consistently helps them notice the good things around them - without you having to remind them every time.
3. Don’t Give Them Everything
It can be so tempting to give our kids everything we didn’t have, whether it’s the latest toy, the coolest experience, or just saying "yes" to avoid a meltdown. But sometimes, having too much makes it harder for them to appreciate what they already have. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t treat them—it’s just about finding the right balance. Maybe they can earn something they want by helping out around the house or save up for a special item. Waiting for something special teaches them patience and helps them truly value what they receive.
4. Point Out the Little Things
Gratitude isn’t only about the big things, like getting a new bike or going on a family vacation. Teach your kids to notice and appreciate the small things, like a sunny day, a hug from a friend, or the way their favorite meal tastes after a long day. These little moments of appreciation can become part of the gratitude ritual mentioned earlier. When kids learn to look for the positives, even in the everyday, it makes a big difference in their overall outlook on life.
5. Lead by Example
We know that kids watch everything we do.. Everything. If we want them to be more grateful, we’ve got to show them what that looks like. Thank your kids when they help out, share what you’re grateful for, or explain why you’re giving to a cause that matters to you. When they see you appreciating life’s blessings - big and small - they’re more likely to follow your lead. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
Why Gratitude Matters
Helping kids develop gratitude isn’t just about teaching manners or making them say "thank you." It’s about giving them a tool that can help them navigate life with a positive mindset. By building these practices into our daily routines, we set our kids up to be more appreciative, resilient, and kind.
So, whether it’s a quick gratitude moment at dinner or modeling thankfulness in our own lives, remember that the little things you do make a big impact. Gratitude isn’t something kids just get overnight - it’s something they grow into with our guidance and support. And when they do? It’s one of the best gifts we can give them.